School Lessons – new learning from the past

September is the month we associate with going back to school. You can feel it in the air, see it in the crowded streets and hear it in shops. Vacation is over! Time to get back to work! Interestingly, the word school comes from the Greek word scholē, meaning leisure. Apparently, back in the days […]

Transcending The Father Wound

June is for fathers. When I was a child, my father took my sisters and me model airplane flying. Youngest and smallest, I was terrified of crashing them, their whining motors tugging at my grip. My father guided me, holding my hand around the control handle until I had the feel of it and then […]

Clearing the Heart of Judgment

There’s an old saying that goes: Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I had the opportunity to ponder this saying at a workshop on forgiveness, lead by Eileen Barker, a mediator and local expert on forgiveness. Eileen told us there are four levels of forgiveness: mental, […]

Finding Forgiveness

The issue of forgiveness frequently comes up in grief. Both regrets and resentments often accompany significant loss. You make mistakes. Others make mistakes, are insensitive, clueless, stressed. Weird family dynamics get triggered. Regrets are about the actions you took or did not take that you wish had been otherwise. Common missteps of caregiving often top […]