Celebrating Interdependence Day

Happy Interdependence Day! Yes, I mean Inter-dependence! On Independence Day, July 4, I invite you to contemplate and celebrate your connections with others.   Think about it! What you have right now is by the grace of your community and connections. The group you are partying with on the 4th, the food on the table, […]

Your Father’s Success Legacy

Fathers influence our success in life. Financially and romantically! One of our very first examples of the masculine archetype, i.e. protector/provider, fathers teach us about success, safety and relationships. We learn from them what it means to be a man or a woman. Because their influence typically begins in early childhood when our brains are […]

Needing to Pause

Last week, I flew up to Seattle with my husband to visit his dying father. He needed only to ask and I went with him. After going through the deaths of my own parents twenty years ago, I understand the importance of pausing, for showing up and being present. Accepting What Is Unfortunately, we did […]

Getting Unstuck

Getting unstuck and moving forward with our goals can often seem daunting. There are many sticky things that bind us. There are our routines and habits, the needs of our loved ones, unexpected crises, losses and grief, approaching deadlines, and the daily demands of life and making a living.   There are times throughout the […]

Mission of the Heart

Mission come from the Latin word missionem which means “to send.” We come into this life with a mission — to fulfill our purpose, to share our unique gifts. Many people are confused about what their true mission is. It is actually very simple: Your mission is to share who you truly are! Be yourself! Being […]

Emotions Need to Move

The word motion is contained in the word Emotion. Emotions move us and our emotions move others. Sometimes they draw us together, sometimes they push us apart. It is good to know our emotions. They teach us about ourselves — our wants, our needs, our desires. Sometimes they feel great, other times they are so […]

Finding Meaning and Purpose

Humans need meaning and purpose. In addition to the needs we share with other animals — oxygen, water, food and shelter,  and the needs we share with other social animals — connection, community, and affection (see my blog, Why We Need Community to Thrive), humans need meaning and purpose. We need to understand why we […]

Why We Need Community To Thrive

Human beings are social animals. Community is the biological plan of our species. We need others to survive. This need for social connection and bonding continues throughout our lives. Community has a powerful influence over the way we think, behave and feel about our selves and those around us. This is particularly true when we […]

What is Your Legacy?

We mostly think of legacy in terms of the money or property we might pass on to our survivors. It is actually anything transmitted or received from us including intangibles like values, beliefs, or attitudes. Often the intangible legacies are more valuable than money or property because they can guide one’s life. My mother, for […]

Avoiding the Whirlwind of Regret

The #1 regret of the dying  is not living a life true to one’s self, but instead living the life others expected of you. The 2nd regret is working too hard. Living without regret means: Attending to your own needs before helping others — like the oxygen mask on an airplane. Learning to moderate you […]